It has been
said that there is a time for everything. There is a time to be born and a time to
die. Check. There is a time for war and a time for
peace. Check. I would much rather have peace, though. There is a time to cry and laugh and dance
and hug and embrace and love and even hate.
We live in such a way that we experience a variety of
"seasons" to life.
What I'm
finding in my life is that the seasons of life are not separate from other
times. Often these moments or seasons
pile in one on top of the other and it is then that I am left to discern which
pieces of the puzzle to pick up. Where
do I start?
What is the first piece that
is always crucial in assembling a puzzle?
Some might say it's the corner piece.
Perhaps. It could be, though,
that starting in the middle might not be such a bad idea, especially where our
lives exist. Starting in the middle
means that I do not retreat to the edges (corners) and isolate or
disconnect.
The middle of life is life
worth living. Granted, it is often more
challenging living in the middle. It is
easier to disengage and move to the periphery of life.
Sometimes the
thought is that when we get "our ducks in a row" then we can make
better sense of what it means to live.
In reality life is more about "chasing the ducks" and finding
meaning along the way. That is why it is
important (at least I think so) to find the times of my life in the middle of
my life. How ironic it is for me to be
speaking about the middle of life since I recently turned 50 years of age. Yes, I know.
It is the middle of a century. My
children were quick to remind me of this.
And yet I can't help but feel that in many ways the best is still to
come regardless of past mistakes, struggles, or decisions.
Recently I was
reminded that to find hope in the midst of pain is a gift. At least pain tells me I'm alive. Should not living be a gift? The challenge is to let go of the past while
embracing the present but notice that letting go means clinging to
something. We let go of the past and its
hurts and griefs while at the same time holding on to the present. There must be something to hold in order to
let something go. This, in essence, is
life in the middle.
Yes, there is
a time for everything and there is timing to everything. Sometimes timing is not what we think it
should be but hopefully in that moment we discover the time to embrace what is
before us. There is a time to
laugh. There is a time to dance (I can't
dance very well, by the way). Maybe it
is time to cry. Through it all it is
time to live. It is time to
breathe. What time is it in your life?
